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It is often said that it only takes a few seconds to create a first impression, and that is especially true when you shake someone’s hand and greet them.

I’m fairly confident that everyone reading this article has received (and perhaps mistakenly given) a bad handshake. Some too strong, some too soft, others just a missed grip.

Here are ways to avoid an awkward handshake.

Be ready for the handshake. Make sure that your right hand is dry, clean and free to extend. This means holding a drink glass in your left hand and keeping your right hand free from other objects. 

Extend your hand with your thumb facing upward. This can help avoid the awkward “landfinger” handshake. (This can also help avoid the sometimes-awkward kiss and shake!)

Make sure your “web” touches their “web.” (The web is the skin between your thumb and pointy finger.) This grip makes it easier to give a proper handshake.

Grasp the other hand firmly, but do not squeeze too tightly.

After two to four pumps, release.

Practice. This is especially important for children and young adults. The more you practice, the easier and better it can become.

Other keys to a successful handshake are to look the other person in the eye, be sincere and say something nice. Focus on the person you are meeting.

Some people give an overly friendly handshake by touching the right arm of the person with their left hand as they shake. This type of handshake is better left to those you have a close personal relationship with—and definitely not for someone you are meeting for the first time.

Occasionally, a bad handshake can be given and no one is to blame. Sometimes, it just happens. What should you do? I think it’s perfectly fine to simply say, “Can we do that shake over again?” It’s better to do it over and feel good about the handshake. Do it right and you’re on your way to making a good impression.

—Suzanne Willis, Southwest Florida etiquette consultant